Is the grass always greener?
It can be argued that unrequited love and unhappy marriages often go hand in hand. The notion that married women at one point or another, become unhappy with their lives thus resorting in having extra marital affairs, is nothing new. There are hit TV shows based on married women having affairs focusing on the perspective of both sexes. Many of these women carry out these affairs with old flames or first loves because there is this sense of familiarity. To fully comprehend the mental state of a woman having an affair, one would first have to understand her motives. So why would someone cheat in the first place?
Most of the time, the biggest reason a woman is unfaithful is because she is unsatisfied. Unsatisfied with her life, unsatisfactory sex, schedules and timetables; these are just some of the major contributing factors. As mentioned previously, there is a sense of familiarity and trust when a woman goes back to an old lover. She knows that she can confide in him and trust him in a way that she is never able to with her husband. What is the inevitable result of the affair? There is never a happy ending. Marriages and relationships are wrecked and there is mistrust.
Women who carry out affairs are so stuck in the past with their false sense of promiscuity and freedom that it blinds them from a future with security. It is no secret that these people are never happy with what they have and so often feel the need to upgrade. However, is this upgrade really an upgrade or is it just a trade in for an older model?
The sympathy therein lies with the husbands and wives who are cheated on. Inevitably, it can be said that these people cheat because they weren’t challenged mentally or sexually by their partners thus seeking something else/better.
In an article posted in the telegraph, studies that were conducted in the UK have shown that marriage is a health booster and is most beneficial towards men rather than women. Moreover, that divorce was more likely to affect men in their 30’s as compared to women. If anything this supports the fact that men are more affected by extra marital affairs.
Who is really to blame then? If a married woman was to have an affair with an old sweetheart, however the relationship doesn’t end well would it be better to assume that the past was better off in the past? There are reasons why relationships end when they do. Therefore sometimes, when things don’t work out they just weren’t meant to be.