This may sound repetitive or even cliché, but hooking up with an ex over the holidays, especially Christmas, is never cool. There are the exceptions of those guys, you just know you’re supposed to end up with. However, if you’re at a certain age where societal expectations for you are to settle down, you know that rekindling something with an ex is not what you should be doing. Although having said that, there is less of a societal expectation and more of a familial one because you know that your parents aren’t getting any younger. So what else can you do but get over your ex this Christmas?

Christmas is almost here! Several countries in South East Asia already have their huge Christmas trees up in malls. All the twinkle lights were up since October lighting up the streets. Malls across the US and Canada already are already campaigning great ideas for the perfect Christmas gift. Many families have already done their shopping or are doing it now.  This Christmas holidays who are you shopping for? Are you shopping for a family member or friend you’re thankful for? Or a colleague at work for secret Santa? Or kids who have been both nice and naughty throughout the year? Whoever you decide to shop for, bear in mind that it’s those that return the action in kind who truly deserve to be in your life.

If you are just getting out of a relationship or a remembering the end of a relationship, you are never really alone during the holidays. For those of you who may result in stalking an ex to see if he/she is as miserable as you, be mindful of the fact that they won’t even do that for you so why would you do that? Why are you lamenting over a past relationship when there are other fish in the sea? Why do you wait for someone who has already moved on? Not only is it unhealthy, you are limiting yourself from living. Over someone who may or may not even text back.

Unless you know for sure, that this guy can fulfill your promises or you can fulfill his, it is better to just leave things as it is. There had to be a reason to end you relationship and unless you can learn to accept that and move on, you will never truly feel at peace.
So instead spend more time on yourself this Christmas. Read the books you said you would, but kept putting off. Spend time appreciating friends and family who have been there for you this year. More importantly, learn to love and accept yourself: faults and all.

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