10 Dating Rules Men Wish You Would Break
Ladies! Here are 10 dating rules that just may make your (dating) life easier. Take notes!
#10. Dating Rule to Break: Never Being the First to Initiate Contact
While drunk texting and spamming are anything but sexy, most men appreciate a random text now and then. In fact, when done right, it can make them more interested in you. “Always waiting for the guy to initiate contact is annoying to most men,” says Harold, 35. “At some point you need to let him know you’re interested by reaching out. Don’t be aggressive, but playful texts and e-mails are as nice on our end as they are on yours.”
#9. Dating Rule to Break: Waiting to Have Sex Until the Third Date
When it comes to sex on the first date, some guys say to hold back, but many guys believe it should be decided on a case-by-case basis. “If we like you, having sex on the first date just makes us like you more,” says Noah, 34. “If you like us, there is no reason to hold back. If you don’t like us, don’t sleep with us. When you know, you know.”
#8. Dating Rule to Break: Not Accepting a Last-Minute Offer
Back in the day, “the rules” warned that accepting a late invitation was a sign of desperation. Not true, says Rich, 30. “I wish women understood that asking for a date a day or even a few hours before is not [usually] about being disrespectful, but more about having a last-minute idea to spend time with someone you like. If he calls you on Thursday to see if you want to grab a post-work drink, why would you say no?”
#7. Dating Rule to Break: Expecting a Guy to Pay
While most men are happy to pay on the first date, many are wary of dating a woman who never pulls out her purse. “Always expecting the guy to pay is rude,” says Delbert, 26. “If he buys dinner, offer to get drinks or ask him out to the movies and treat him. It will show him that you’re not looking for him to finance your good time—something a lot of guys worry about.”
#6. Dating Rule to Break: Leaving Your Relationship Up to the Universe
Checking out your daily horoscope can be a fun way to break up the day, but using it as a dating tool can seriously limit your options. “I had a girl say she didn’t date Scorpios, yet we got along great. She just couldn’t stop saying, ‘Scorpios are this, Scorpios are that,’” says 34-year-old Marc, “until one day…it caused a fight, which all folks have—even Scorpios. When I got upset, she said, ‘See, I told you, typical Scorpio.’”
#5. Dating Rule to Break: Thinking the More Time You Spend Together the Closer You Are
It’s natural to want to spend time with someone you like, but pushing the fast-forward button on a new relationship can send great guys running in the opposite direction. “I once dated a girl who wanted to see me a lot and flipped out when I needed to take care of my own stuff,” says Greg, 28.
#4. Dating Rule to Break: Expecting Dates to Be Elaborate
“I live in New York City, where dinner and drinks at a nice restaurant can cost a few hundred dollars,” says Greg J., 31. “If a woman is expecting that a few nights a month, we’re going to have an issue. I’m not going to put myself in debt to impress someone I don’t know very well. Besides, most men want a girl who can just hang out and be casual.”
#3. Dating Rule to Break: Dating Only Your Type
“A lot of women tend to have height, eye and hair requirements, which keeps them out of relationships with great guys. It’s fine to have a ‘type,’ but I think women should be more open,” says 32-year-old George.
#2. Dating Rule to Break: Assuming You’re Monogamous
“If we’ve been on only five or so dates, we’re dating,” says Tony, 31. “And unless a guy makes it clear that you’re exclusive, you should assume that he’s dating other people and you should too.”
#1. Dating Rule to Break: Running Everything By Your Girlfriends
“A lot of women think they need to share every last detail with their friends as a way to gauge the guy and where the relationship is going, but this often leads to miscommunication,” says Saye, 31. “It’s better to go to the source for information.”