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We are part of a society that has grown to become extremely shallow. We were born and raised to magazines and TV’s portraying only the sexiest celebrities and obsessing over their “pretty” lives. Walking up to someone to introduce yourself or saying some phrase that will catch their attention has become old school. Before you know it you’re all grown up and ready to find a lover but there is one thing in your way, and that’s who you are. Most cases of “perfect” looking bodies with abs or a thin waist all go back to genetics. There are many people who exercise religiously but their body build is different than another persons body build. Thus, we have ended up with a society that is too depressed regarding their imperfect looks, and we come up with this belief that if we didn’t have the magazine cover worthy genes, then why try? We live in a society that has become too depressed because of focusing on the ideas they have shoved in our faces through media. Happiness has been connected to attractiveness and success, leaving the “imperfect” hopeless and upset.

If we cared for ourselves and our well-being, mentally and physically, we wouldn’t allow ideas, perceptions, and opinions from others to dictate our happiness or content with who we are. A human being is only human because of having a consciousness and emotion. When we connect to another human being, in whatever form it is, brother, child, or lover, it is all a soul connection. If you look at the people that truly love you in your life, they haven’t accepted you into their lives because of how much you weigh or what color hair you have chosen.

So why do we impose or allow this idea of perfection that society portrays for us in? Why has it become what dictates our self worth? Why can’t we accept that we are imperfectly perfect?

Stop looking for the love you can’t give yourself by finding someone to give it to. This makes it extremely hard for the person that has found so many quirks they love about you, in and out, to be with you. All you will end up with is love that you are receiving but you cant allow in because you don’t trust it, and that ends up turning off your lover. The relationship ends up being about them trying to prove their love to you and all the reasons to why they love you. Sooner or later your lover will be fed up with how high maintenance it is to get you to let them love you.

Long sentence short, if you cant love yourself, don’t burden someone with expecting them to also teach you how to love yourself. It’s unfair. Maybe you could meet that person that can convince you that you are truly worthy, but that is a rare case and that isn’t what a relationship is about. It’s about compromise and support.

Many people use Tinder and other dating sites that are all based on your looks, which many people end up with a ‘catfish’ which is a term used to explain fake profiles. If you are using these sites, and you have no self worth, don’t. This will only depress you more. Let go of all these sites, and all these online personas that give you the ‘perfect’ looking person and life. Even these perfect looking people are usually not happy. Especially if they’re addicted to updating their Instagram’s and Facebook religiously. They are trying to prove a happy life online that doesn’t seem so easy to do in reality. But that’s the point to life, to live your reality and make anything you want out of it!

Take time out and pinpoint what type of person you would like to be. The whole of a human being is much bigger than focusing it on looks. We have so much to learn about the world and about each other, if we all based our lovers on their looks, the world would be a terrible place. Not every pretty looking face is a pretty human being. And if that person lacks any type of charisma or a personality that defines who they are, then what’s the point? A relationship is not only based on sex, which rarely is even identified as love making because of how shallow sex has become. A relationship is loving and at the same time being frustrated with some traits of your lover, but that’s what makes them your lover. Love isn’t perfect and it’s hard to commit to. So why don’t we understand that following what society thinks as attractive is not correct and the only perfect in this society are the unique imperfects. Praise your imperfect perfections and let go of all the things they have brainwashed you to think.

Start looking for that light you lost within you, and nourish the child within you. Your body deserves the love you refused to let in, so start by giving yourself love from you.

Taking good care of yourself can be a tall order in today’s world with so many demands on your time and energy. Balancing a career with a personal life, family, friends, volunteering, the usual errands, and other commitments often leaves little time to put towards yourself, and time dedicated to workouts tends to be the first thing to go.

You may already have a good long list of reasons why taking care of yourself, especially when it comes to your health and fitness, is important to you, but I’m going to add fuel to that fire. As women we are the natural caretakers of others, so we don’t always think about the benefits others will feel once we’re taking care of ourselves. The truth is your personal relationships may benefit far more than you realize! So here at 6 great reasons why making your fitness a priority will benefit your relationships:

  1. You’ll have more to give others once you take care of you

    You’ve probably heard the Airplane Oxygen Mask Analogy: put your mask on first before helping the person next to you. But rather than thinking of helping people in a one-time emergency situation, I prefer an analogy that takes into account the day to day lifestyle of self-care. Think about your body like a car- is it easier or more desirable to transport someone on a cross-country road trip in a run-down vehicle with the check engine light flashing and one flat tire? Or in a smoothly running shiny BMW that has been expertly maintained? (Hint- you want to treat yourself like that BMW!) You’ll be stronger, have more energy, and be able to serve others in a greater capacity if you yourself are well-cared for and in good health.

  2. Your confidence gets a boost.

    Taking care of your body by doing exercises that include some strength training will not only help you get and stay lean but improve your posture, and generally speaking, your confidence. So many women find fitness empowering once they learn what their amazing bodies are capable of! Improved body confidence naturally leads to more confidence in the others areas of your life. This is a big perk if you’re in a relationship already, but can also be a boost if you’re getting into the dating scene or even in the work environment.

  3. You’ll experience better bedroom performance.

    On the romantic side, a fit, flexible, strong healthy body has benefits when it comes to intimacy. There are a lot of internal and functional changes to your body once you’re in a regular exercise routine, and you don’t have to look like a Greek goddess to reap these benefits! I’m talking about better blood flow, improved endurance, more agility, a wider range of motion and flexibility, and improved hormone levels. The combined effect of all this is heightened potential in the bedroom!

  4. Couples who sweat together tend to stay together.

    Consider working out with your partner great bonding time due to the shared experience, mixed with the physicality of actually sweating a bit. Sharing a passion, even if new-found, for exercise or physical activity makes you feel even more in sync with your partner on an emotional level, increasing the satisfaction you’ll get from your relationship. Mix in some feel-good endorphins and the closeness you feel from spending quality time together, and sweat sessions with your romantic partner can become their own form of foreplay.

  5. You’ll be in a better mood, and that’s contagious.

    Have you ever noticed that when you’re around happy people, you start smiling more too? We humans pick up on each other’s moods, both the positive and negative. Exercise releases some pretty powerful endorphins, which make you happy, improve your mood and reduce your stress. When you are more relaxed and radiating feel-good vibes, everyone around you benefits and will subconsciously want to spend more time with you (friends, family, coworkers, & significant others too!)

  6. The ability to do more physical activities opens up more social circles.

    If you were never fit enough to go for that hike, or too embarrassed or slow to join that run club or adult kickball league, well now you can go for it! Bonus- having healthy active friends makes you more likely to stay active. And a workout date or game is a much healthier lifestyle than always meeting for dinner or drinks.

So instead of thinking about how positive relationships will be good for your health, think more about how taking care of yourself with regular exercise will be a major benefit for your relationships! Being your Best Kept Self when it comes to health and fitness means you can give more to others, experience deeper and more exciting romantic relationships, make new friends, and be the confident and positive woman more people want to be around.

 

We do not claim to own this article nor do we claim to have written it. All credit is given to Best Kept Self.

Dating throughout young adulthood is an entirely different experience than dating when you’re older.

Anyone dating in their 60s and beyond will tell you how different the landscape is from the dating scene in their 30s. It isn’t just a matter of environmental changes — even though you may live in a different city, hang out with different crowds and use different kinds of technology. There are more fundamental changes that result in a very different dating experience.

Understanding the scope of these dating differences can help you prepare for the dating world when you re-enter it after a period of removal due to marriage, career focus, or other circumstances.

1. Your Priorities Are Different

The type of mate you’re looking for in your 60s is probably different than your ideal partner in your 30s. While these exact details will vary from person to person, generally, older daters will have a clearer picture of their ideal mate while younger daters have a more ambiguous picture. Older daters also look for more signs of career and financial stability, and are less picky about little personality quirks that might be deal breakers earlier on.

2. You Know the Red Flags

When you’re just getting started in the dating scene, you might be stricken unaware with a destructive personality type or some other type of disastrous potential mate. In your 60s and 70s, you’ll be much more privy to the red flags.

3. You Have More Responsibilities

Chances are, you have your life together more when you re-enter the dating scene. You might have a demanding career, one or more children or other significant responsibilities in your life. The point is, you’re less flexible and dating is never your first priority.

4. You’re More Straightforward

Asking someone out on a date when you’re young is an awkward, coy affair, but once you’re a little older, the whole process becomes much more blunt and straightforward. You’re much more willing to be upfront with your intentions, for better or for worse.

5. You’re OK With Nights In

When you’re young, you want to go out — and even if you don’t, you know everybody else is going out, so you feel pressured to go out. When you’re a little older, you (and your potential partners) are all a little more comfortable with spending the night in or turning in before midnight.

The dating world might be different when you’re older, but that doesn’t mean it’s any less fun — in fact, if you go in prepared, many people find it an even more enjoyable experience. Get involved and live it up!

 

 

This article is credited to The Huffington Post. We do not claim to own it.

“Kiss me and you will see how important I am,” Sylvia Plath wrote.

The erotic kiss (as opposed to the kiss of respect, friendship, courtesy, or parent-child) is recognized in most cultures around the world. The vast majority of adults all over the globe have experienced the awkwardness, excitement, confusion and pleasure of it. But one must admit that on its face the practice of kissing is more than a bit strange. Why would the exchange of saliva and dinner salad remnants be considered a desirable event, a ritual of passion? Given that the erotic kiss is so common, it must play an important role in the dance of human sexuality. But what exactly is that role?

Opinions among scholars differ as to the function and origins of kissing. One hypothesis is that the kiss has evolved as a mechanism for gathering information about potential sexual partners. A kiss brings us into close physical proximity with the other, close enough to smell and taste them. The face area is rich with glands secreting chemicals that carry genetic and immunological information. Our saliva carries hormonal messages. A person’s breath, as well as the taste of their lips and the feel of their teeth, signals things about their health and hygiene, and thus their procreative suitability.

Another hypothesis claims that the kiss functions primarily on the level of psychology, as a way to express and reinforce feelings of trust, closeness, and intimacy with another. Just like the clicking of wine glasses allows us to bring hearing into the sensory experience of drinking (which already involves all the other senses), so the kiss allows us to invite the senses of taste and smell to partake in the celebration of intimacy and make the event deeper and more complete. In addition, when we kiss someone, we bring that person into our vulnerable personal space and agree to take the risk of catching an infection or disease. A kiss is therefore an implicit expression of openness and trust. A kiss also shows that you do not recoil from the other’s bodily fluids. Recent research(link is external) has suggested that sexual arousal, especially among women, functions to suppress feelings of disgust. In this context, the kiss may serve as evidence and expression of sexual arousal. This theory predicts that kissing will not be an integral part of sexual activities where genuine desire and intimacy are absent. Indeed, the kiss is not common among sex workers and their clients, or rapists and their prey.

In addition, the research suggests a possible gender difference in how kissing is perceived and used. Men, in general, may regard less the kiss and the information it provides. Men tend to use kissing as a potential gateway to intercourse. They are more willing to forego kissing for intercourse, and their interest in kissing their spouses decreases over time. Women, in general, may regard the kiss as more important and attribute to it more meaning in the process of choosing a partner and maintaining a relationship. Women tend to see kissing less as a sexual act and more as an intimate act. Women rely more on the kiss to identify and assess a potential partner. They tend to be more attuned to the taste and smell of the man, and are much less willing to have sex without kissing beforehand. They are also somewhat more likely to use a bad kiss as reason to break off contact with a potential lover.

Despite the differences in attitudes towards it, kissing, it seems, benefits both genders. Generally, couples that kiss more frequently report improved and more satisfying relationships.

This article was taken off of Psychology Today. We do not claim to own it.

Easter is often associated with blossoming flowers and cute wild animals running everywhere however Easter in Canada looks a lot more like Winter with cold breezes and snow covering the ground.

This year, cold weather and snow may just be the case for some parts of Canada. By Good Friday this winter weather will be across a lot of Central Canada. Snow will also fall across the southern Prairies on Friday too. The cold weather will be accompanied by some strong winds too.

By Sunday, the cold will dominate most of Canada and majority of the country will have a high chance of having a white Easter!

The first Deadpool movie, staring Ryan Reynolds, was released on Valentines Day so the only question that we have to ask is does that mean Deadpool 2 is coming out on Valentines Day too? God, we can only hope.

With technology running our lives at the moment, we often associate giving our phone pass-code to our significant other as a romantic gesture. However, after conducting research with some of our clientele, they rated giving out their phone-code as the least romantic gesture that they could do! Below is the top 7 most simple yet romantic gestures that you can do for your partner.

  1. Taking care after your partner when they’ve come down with the flu or another illness (77%)
  2. Taking a vacation together (72%)
  3. Holding hands when out together (69%)
  4. Gushing about your partner to your family and friends (65%)
  5. Attending a family event or a party together, as a couple (63%)
  6. Putting your phone away during a date (61%)
  7. Bringing your partner breakfast in bed (59%)

69 is quite a common oral sex position, but not many people realize how intimate it actually is. To have your bodies so close and your mouths touching each other requires some trust.

The Cowgirl position is great others for G-spot stimulation and amazing for emotional intimacy — a climax clincher for a lot of women! With you and your partner’s hands being unoccupied, they’re able to roam each other’s body and learn where every curve is. The bottom must rely on their partner’s movements while the person on top is exposed and bare for the bottom to stare at.

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The Criss Cross sex position is an amazing and well-recommended variation of the legs on shoulder position. All you do it put your legs up on your partners shoulder and cross your ankles, so your legs are unable to move apart. This position gives your partner full control and it allows your hands to wander on and around your own and your lover’s body!

Although there’s no eye contact in this position, it gives the male the opportunity to embrace his partner’s body by either pushing their body down into the bed or pulling them up by the neck or hair so that their body’s perked up in front of his. His hands can hold his partners or even caress their breasts and stomach, or even kiss their neck! This position also gives the female the opportunity to stroke herself to help achieve an orgasm!

The Burning Man isn’t for everyone, however if you’re brave enough to try it you’re sure to have a blast! You’ll need to find a table where you or your partner can lean over and rest on their stomach. The man then will enter from behind while having his hands on the woman’s shoulders or hips. What makes this position so intimate and hot is that the female has nowhere to move because her body’s immobilized on the counter! So if you enjoy a passionate and hard thrusting, this position’s just for you!

 

What happens when a match made in hell goes for each other’s throats? Obviously nothing good! As TMZ has reported, Tommy Lee and Pamela Anderson are back at their bickering ways once again!

“Tommy Lee is calling BS on his ex-wife, Pamela Anderson, saying he doesn’t have a booze problem 

… and insisting his drinking has nothing to do with Brandon punching him. Tommy tells TMZ … Pamela’s allegation he is an alcoholic is off base.

In a statement he says, ‘Do I drink more than the average Joe? Yes. Have I ever hurt my sons or acted out of turn with them because of my drinking? No.’ He adds, ‘No matter how much people wanna pin me as this deviant alcoholic abuser, that isn’t me. I’m a happy fun loving guy.’ As we reported, Pam claims Tommy’s fianceé, Brittany Furlan, keeps Tommy drunk all day. Brittany tells us, ‘That’s insane. Tommy is a grown up and makes his own decisions.’

As for Brandon knocking him out, Tommy says, ‘When I stood up he pushed me into a wall. I didn’t want to hit my son. I never have and I never will.’ He says he simply wanted Brandon to apologize ‘to show that he actually felt bad, but he doesn’t.’ He also thinks his sons haven’t had to struggle — ‘I want them to get jobs, not their inconsistent modeling and acting work here and there that doesn’t make enough money for them to survive.'”

 

With the weather being cold and rainy, us matchmakers at Select Introductions wanted to gift our clientele with a lovely beef stew recipe for two. Enjoy!

INGREDIENTS

1-1/2 cups dry red wine or beef broth, divided

3 tablespoons lemon juice

2 teaspoons reduced-sodium soy sauce

2 teaspoons Worcestershire sauce

1/2 pound beef stew meat, cut into 1-inch cubes

2 teaspoons olive oil

1 small onion, chopped

3 garlic cloves, minced

2-1/2 cups beef broth, divided

2 small potatoes, cut into 1-inch cubes

2 medium carrots, cut into 1-inch slices

1 cup sliced baby portobello mushrooms

2 fresh thyme sprigs

1/8 teaspoon cayenne pepper

2 teaspoons cornstarch

DIRECTIONS

In a large resealable plastic bag, combine 1 cup wine or broth, lemon juice, soy sauce and Worcestershire sauce; add the beef. Seal bag and turn to coat; refrigerate for 8 hours or overnight.

Drain and discard marinade. In a large saucepan, brown beef in oil. Remove meat and set aside. In the same pan, saute onion and garlic until tender. Add 2 cups beef broth and remaining wine. Return meat to pan.

Bring to a boil. Reduce heat; cover and simmer for 30 minutes. Add the potatoes, carrots, mushrooms, thyme and cayenne. Bring to a boil. Reduce heat; cover and simmer for 30 minutes or until vegetables and beef are tender. Discard thyme sprigs.

In a small bowl, combine cornstarch and remaining beef broth until smooth. Gradually stir into stew. Bring to a boil; cook and stir for 2 minutes or until thickened.