Are Celebrities the Only Ones Making Sex Tapes?
The news that Hulk Hogan won a $115 million verdict against Gawker brought tears to the former professional wrestler and smiles to foes of tabloid journalism. Hulk Hogan–a.k.a. Terry Bollea–sued Gawker, its founder, and former editor for posting parts of a Hogan sex tape. The invasion of privacy suit asked for $100 million. And it isn’t over yet.
The jury awarded Hogan $55 million in economic damages and $60 million for emotional distress. Next, the jury will consider whether to add punitive damages. Gawker and the individual defendants are already promising to appeal. Nick Denton, Gawker’s founder, expressed confidence in the appeal. Even so, Hogan can probably count on something, since many cases settle during the appeal process.
There may be some other celebrities who you have forgotten have sex tapes out there as well.
JLo’s ex-husband Ojani Noa leaked excerpts of their 1997 sex tape online in 2011. He tried to sell the footage but Lopez managed to stop him by taking him to court.
A sex tape featuring Farrell and his ex, Playboy Playmate Nicole Narain, was leaked in 2006. Farrell had tried to keep it private with a restraining order but parts of it were posted online.
In 1989, then-22-year-old Rob Lowe’s sex tape was leaked, and the scandal became much greater when it emerged that one of the two girls on film was underage. Lowe denied knowing her true age at the time. His career recovered from the scandal and he even spoofed the tape on Saturday Night Live.
In 2009, Gawker leaked excerpts from a XXX-rated tape that involved Grey’s Anatomy star Eric Dane, his wife Rebecca Gayheart, and the Celebrity Rehabreality star Kari Ann Peniche.
I guess the question people who would never consider filming themselves have is; Why? It’s simple, people want to know what they look like having sex. It can be a good good educational exercise – in one way it’s satisfying in terms of curiosity, but also in a sense of narcissism. There is a certain extent of exhibitionism, but to some it’s simply a turn on because it’s forbidden. Everybody knows there’s a risk and some think it shows you really trust someone if you let them do that.
Though the sheer proliferation of pixelated skin flicks could be viewed as a grim indictment of the smartphone generation reared on instant gratification and an unattainable expectation of sex. Filming a sex tape with a long-term partner doesn’t have to be seedy. On the contrary, it can be rather healthy. It can be hard work trying to make love to one person for the rest of your life, so anything you can do together that’s going to keep you both interested and things a bit novel, a bit naughty, is fantastic.
Of course, while co-directing a DIY blue movie with a consenting partner may seem a great idea in the moment, both history and divorce rates suggest things don’t always end happily ever after. As such, custody of your creation is key. The fact is, no matter how much in love you are, people split up. If you’ve got a sex tape and someone else has a copy, you’ve got to be prepared for it to come out and be sent to the last person you’d want to see it. That’s the risk you take. If you’re going to do it, make sure you’re the one who has the custody of whatever it is.
As for celebrities – the proverbial pin-ups who would receive many million more PornHub hits than your own shaky handed sex tape – don’t expect the recent landmark invasion of privacy to necessarily promote a more cautious approach in future.
There’s a sort of delusional aspect to celebrity. They’re treated so differently and have lost all connection to the world that many honestly don’t believe somebody is going to reveal a sex tape without their consent. Of course, many celebrities are also narcissistic, so there’s a certain element of wanting the world to see. I think a lot of celebs know that there’s a risk and that’s why it appeals to them – they’re quite happy for people to see them have sex as they think they look fantastic.
Sex Tape Tips
If you’re going to do it, do it wisely.
1. Don’t store it on your iPhone
Have it on a separate device that you’re in charge of. Don’t put it on your phone, because even if you don’t intend to show people, you could be flicking through your pictures while showing someone something and forget that it was there.
2. Only make one when in a serious relationship
With a one-night stand, forget it. In a long-term relationship it’s very educational – it can reinforce that you do look sexy.
3. Don’t smile at the camera
If you can avoid it, don’t put your face in it. You can shoot the tape and crop out your heads, so you just see bodies – that can be sexy in itself, and it’s also much safer.
4. Take pride in production values
Most people imagine themselves to look a lot more glamorous than they actually do, so get the lighting right!
5. Don’t shoot yourself in the foot
Don’t go through the trouble to set the camera up and do the whole thing, only to realize one of you have kicked camera off the table. Be careful where you put the camera.